Right thought- Right sight

Sometimes, being silent in a situation helps you think thoroughly before acting. We know most times when we feel bad we want to pour it all out, either to someone around us or to the person who did the wrong, perhaps adding some extra stories to it or saying it without being conscious of our choice of words. But what if we pause, analyse it, go through every single action that led to it and then decide how to handle it. Sometimes we engage in rash thinking and do some things that are not intended, or even speak things ought not to have been said.  Let's not forget that one way or the other, our actions are affected by someone else. We tend to ignore this almost every time by using the common phrase,"pouring out my mind". 
Words are quite powerful, the person that hurt you might not intend so, whomever you might have shared it with might not really have a solution to give and it will end up accumulating in the third party's mind. Thinking before reacting goes a long way in sustaining relationships.
Whatever is nurtured in the heart one way or the other definitely comes out. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
The issue is not really who you tell or not, but how you react to a particular situation. Can you receive a bad news concerning another person and you don't relate with that other person in a discriminating manner. Can you give the person-whom you've heard a lot about a second chance to know who she really is, or do you just conclude on what you've already heard. Can you have an issue with your colleague at work and know how to handle it well or must everyone in your office  be filled with your endless problem.
Sharing your problem with another is not bad at all, but it shouldn't be all the time. Don't bug others too much because they too face challenges, instead develop the habit of handling it too, and not just handling it, but handling it properly. Build yourself.
These are things we already know, but are we working on them, or it's just another piece we ignore. How can you love your neighbor when you say stuff that may cause harm to your so- called loved neighbor.
Build capacity to receive anything but at the same time don't allow everything get to you.
Sometimes what we face on a daily basis determines whether we are ready for the next level or not. Failing a particular test will not lead you to the next, but it will only be bringing that particular test your way continuously until you pass the test, then you can move to the next.
Build capacity, though not by might but by the spirit of God.
Honestly, we need to do thorough thinking before we release words. At first instance it might be really tough because it's like you're trying to compel yourself, but as you try just know it's not all about you, engage the holyghost and ask him to help you. Like a flash, you'll just notice that what you thought was a big hurt will just fizzle away and as time goes on, you'll discover you no longer over react without thinking.